Sunday, 14 April 2019

Weddingtin | The History of Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts and Anniversary Gifts List by Year

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Wedding anniversary is that time of the year that reminds us (married couple) the day we tied the knot and pledge to live together no matter what difficulty that confronts us.  The act of giving a wedding anniversary gift is very important because it shows how much you appreciate him/her in your life, and for being there through thick and thin within the marriage.

You may be wondering, what type of wedding anniversary gifts will I present to my significant half to show how much I appreciate them?  You don’t have to break a bank to show love and appreciation, as little and creative your gifts are can actually do more.

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Let’s say, you want to celebrate your first anniversary. You decide to work with the anniversary gifts list by year. For example, on the list "paper" is the designated material for the first anniversary. You don’t have to just get your partner an ordinary paper because the anniversary gifts list said so. Do something creative about it – you can give out paper cards, movie tickets, sporting event tickets so he can cheer his favorite team, plane tickets for a getaway and so much more.

Most of us would have wondered when/how these traditional wedding anniversary gifts started. Here’s what I do know about anniversary gifts list by year and how the tradition started.

 Brief History of Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts

You might be wondering who came up with the idea to present a wedding anniversary gift, it is believed that the origin of the practice of giving gifts on various wedding anniversaries originated in Central Europe (Germany) during the medieval times.  Husbands are required to present their wives with a wreath of silver to mark their 25 years living together or a wreath of gold to mark their 50 years living together. And Till today, the 25th anniversary is still known as the “silver anniversary,” while the 50th anniversary is mostly referred to as the “golden anniversary.”

Another school of thought also predicted the practice of gifting a traditional wedding anniversary gifts to celebrate wedding anniversaries dated back to biblical times when the Babylonian King Nebuchadnezzar tried to appease an aggrieved concubine by giving her the population of Israel as an anniversary gift.  WTF! This guy is love drunk.

History of Anniversary Gifts List by Year

The symbolic wedding anniversary gifts list for each year of marriage originated and become popular during the Victorian Era. Although no one is exactly sure how the traditional symbolic wedding anniversary gifts started, many traced it back to the Victorian times.

In modern time, wedding anniversary gift list by year is largely based on Emily Post’s, where she listed “eight anniversaries” published in 1922, in her Blue Book of Social Usage. Emily list included 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th, 20th, 25th, 50th and 75th anniversaries. Emily went ahead and listed a symbolic anniversary gift for each of the first fifteen years of marriage and one for every five years after that. 
In 1937 the American National Retail Jewellers Association brought up a more updated list with a Modern touch to it, which associated a material for each anniversary year up to the 20th and then each fifth year after that up to the 75th, exempting  65th anniversary. 

In the modern list, you can find symbolic anniversary gifts, such as clocks, silverware, appliances and desk sets. You will find an array of flowers and gemstones to help guide your gift decisions and plan your wedding anniversary celebrations.

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Symbolic Guide - Anniversary Gifts List by Year 

Here is our full comprehensive wedding anniversary gifts list in respect to year of marriage. This list varies from country to country.


Clocks, Watches
Pansies or Carnation
Cosmos or Lily of the valley
Crystal, Glass
Fuchsia or Sunflower
Flowers, Fruits
Linen, Appliances
Blue Topaz
Daisy or Hydrangea
Calla Lillies or Daisy
Iron, Candy
Jack in the Pulpit or Calla Lily
Wool, Copper, Brass
Table Sets
Clematis or Freesia
Linen, Lace
Poppies or Lilac
Pottery, Willow
Daffodils or Bird of Paradise
Tin, Aluminium, Pewter
Morning Glory or Daffodil
Fashion Jewelry
Peony or Tulip
Pearls, Gems
Hollyhock or Peony
Fur, Fabrics
Citrine, Moonstone
Dahlia or Chrysanthemum
Gold Jewelry
Opal, Agate
Rose or Dahlia
Ruby, Crystal
Peridot, Aquamarine
Bouquet of Flowers
Amethyst, Citrine
Amethyst, Citrine
Bouquet of Flowers
Cat's Eye
Bouquet of Flowers
Almandine Garnet
Bouquet of Flowers
China, Porcelain
Day Lilies or Aster
Silver Jewelry
Silver Jubilee
Pearl Jubilee
Sweet Pea or Lily
Bouquet of Flowers
Nasturtium or Gladiolus
Cat's Eye
Bouquet of Flowers
Golden Jubilee
Violet or Yellow Roses
Bouquet of Flowers
Diamond Jubilee
Bouquet of Flowers
Smoky Quartz
Bouquet of Flowers
Source: perfect-wedding-day

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Thursday, 7 March 2019

Weddingtin Present: Isoko Traditional Marriage attire

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Isoko traditional marriage attire for bride and groom
The Isoko people are colourful in nature; they are mainly situated in the coastal region. They are one of the major ethnic groups behind Urhobo; that lives in Delta State. The fascinating things about the Isoko are their festivals, wedding ceremonies and their glamorous traditional marriage attires.

The Isoko people are water-related in their cultures. During festivals, they have swimming, fishing and dancing contests. The king of the isoko people is called the Ovie, and his queen is called Ovieya.

Isoko traditional marriage attire consists of many colors; conspicuous and brighter colours. Their main colors are yellow and blue. They are firmly connected with their river cultures. Therefore, the blue color is predominated in their clothes as it symbolizes their connection with rivers. They also like green, the green color is associated with life itself. Yellow color stands for richness.

If you’re an Isoko/urhobo/ijaw woman planning for your traditional marriage, or you are from elsewhere and about to marry Isoko/Urhobo man, and you find it difficultly hard to decide what to wear, and what colours to combine. Then article is for you. I have placed photos for you guys to look through to make your Isoko traditional marriage attire glamourous. Weddingtin got you covered.

Traditional Marriage Attire for Men
Men wear long shirts and pants or male skirts. Isoko traditional attire has evolved with time and men prefer to wear cowboy like hats, with a walking stick. They wear long shirts and pants in bright colors, like blue, yellow, orange or white. The colors of their clothes are in harmony with colors of their female counterpart. 
An Isoko groom in his traditional attire

Traditional Marriage Attire for Women
Traditional attire for Isoko women consist of long cotton skirts, blouses, and traditional head tie. Women also like to wear beaded head crowns and red coral beads. Isoko women are one the prettiest women in the world when they appear in their colourful traditional attire.

The Isoko traditional marriage attire for a woman consists of a traditional head-tie, blouse, wrapper (2) set. Isoko women are flamboyant in nature and are not afraid to mix colours. The predominant colors in their clothes are blue, yellow, orange, green or white

More Photos of isoko traditional attire for weddings 

Beautiful Isoko couple in their Traditional marriage attire

Friday, 8 February 2019

Traditional Marriage Requirements and Bride price List of Jukun People

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young girls dancing during a jukun festival/woman making fabric
(tie&dye)/ newly wed jukun couple 

Like every other Nigerian marriages; the Jukun traditional marriage is meant to promote African culture and its beauty. Traditional marriage requirements and bride price list of the jukun people is fill with glamour and richly embedded in our culture. Jukun are the direct descendant of the people of ancient Kwararafa Kingdom. Before the coming of Christianity and Islam, the Jukun’s are predominantly traditional worshipers.

The present day Jukun people are found at the bank of River Benue and Niger, which runs through Taraba, Benue and Nasarawa state; who are fishermen while those in the hinter land in Plateau, Adamawa, Gombe and Northwestern part of Cameroon are fabric makers (tie and dye clothing)

When Marring a Jukun Lady

Marring a Jukun lady or girl is presume/perceived to be the cheapest in Taraba state and northwestern Cameroon.  This has made many Jukun men come back home to pick a wife in order to retain the rich cultural heritage of the Jukun people. However, that does not mean an inter-religious or cross-cultural marriage is not encouraged.

The Jukun are polygamous, aside those who practice Christianity. The Jukun detest divorce and goes out of their way to see that their marriages work.  When all efforts and negotiation fails divorce may take place, and if the following happens - impotence/bareness, insanity of spouse, adultery/leaving spouse for 12 months for no genuine reasons.

Bride price and Marriage Requirement in Jukun Tradition

The minimum age of marriage for a jukun girl is 18 years. The Jukun traditional marriage is only biding when the father or guardian of the girl gave their consent. The marriage contract can only take place when bride price is presented and payment of customary gift to father or guardian of the bride. Therefore, marriage is only recognized in Jukun tradition when the intending husband fulfils all necessary marriage rites and requirement.

Courtship gift
During courtship the man is expected to give the woman certain amount of money as her entitlement or as betrothed money called Abegya – N 200.

Bride price in Jukun traditional marriages is relatively small. They are as follows;

1. Abeben (Brideprice) N600

2. Andu  (handbag & handkerchief) for the woman

3. Ane-Vyo (going to farm) – for father-in law (N600) & Mother-in law (N500)

4. Greeting of in-laws – any amount

5. Abewagaben (Solemnization money) – N100 , this can only take place when requirement (i – iv) has been meet.

6. Upyotvyo (money for roofing father in-law’s house) – N3 00

7. Sitting on in law’s mat – N500

8. Bride’s Paternal grandmother – N100

9. Bag of maize
10. Bag of guinea corn
11. 30ft of Zana (Woven grass) for fence father in-law compound
12. 18 sticks for the fencing of father in-law’s compound.
13. she-goat 

Before wedding day
14. Groom pays N100,
15. 12 calabashes of Kola nuts,
16. Gallon of Kerosene 

Wedding  Day
17. The groom pays N50,
18. bride cousins –N50,
19. N50 to groom’s younger relations(Mouth opening)
20. 4 basins of Burukutu (local liquor),
21. 3 basins of Kununzaki (Local guinea corn juice). 

After wedding
The Groom will present the bride’s family with
22. 2 basins of the local liquor
23. 1 basin of Kunu


Monday, 14 January 2019

Having Sex on a First Date Could Generate a Long Lasting Relationship - Current Study

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Generally, it is believed that having sex on a first date could jeopardize your opportunity of having a meaningful relationship.

However, as indicated by a new research, getting intimate at a beginning could really kick off a connection between soon-to-be partners and generate a long lasting relationship.

A group of psychologists from the Israeli-based Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya and the University of Rochester's Department of Clinical and Social Sciences in Psychology presume that sexual desire may assume a major part in attracting potential lovers to one another.

Yet, critically, sexual desire has an imperative impact in empowering attachment between individuals.

"Sex may set the ground for developing passionate connection between unknown individuals," the examination's lead author Gurit Birnbaum, a social analyst and associate prof. of psychology at the IDC Herzliya, said.

"This remains constant for the two people. Sex motivate people to associate, regardless of gender."

The investigation was of heterosexual relationships, and discovered that men and women both trying to connect with one another endeavoring when sexually aroused.

A group of men and women were placed in four diverse interrelated studies where their conduct towards one another was analysed by the psychologist.

The researchers found that sexual desire triggers "emotional bonding" between people.

Prof Birnbaum stated: "Sexual desires may assume a causally critical role in the development of relationships.

"It's the magnetism that holds partners together long enough for an attachment bond to form."

In the earliest study, 36 ladies and 22 men who lip-synced to pre-recorded music with an appealing, opposite-sex study insider and after that appraised their longing for their partner.

In the second study, 38 ladies and 42 men who were requested to slow dance with an appealing, opposit-sex insider.

In the two studies, researchers found a connection between "synchronization" and want for the other person.

Studies three and four, of 42 ladies and 42 men and 50 ladies and 50 men individually, tested behaviors of groups subliminally flashed a sexual, non-explicit picture for 30 milliseconds on a screen, and those who weren't.

Those whose sexual system were "enacted" shows progressively "caring" and "helpful" behaviours in tasks.

So for what reason does this occur?

As indicated by the scientists, on an involuntary level it could be down to evolution - to ensure reproduction.

"All through mankind's history, parents' bonding greatly increased the children's survival chances," Birnbaum clarified.

Earlier research has shown that similar brain regions are activated when an individual encounters either sexual desire or romantic love.

Scientists trust this example gave a clue at a neurological pathway that makes sexual activation affect emotional bonding.

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